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Category: Marriage & Family

Kiddushin: Ownership or Partnership? Part 2: The Act of Marriage – Mohar and other Marriage-Monies

by Rabbi Dov Linzer
Posted on July 31, 2016

Part I – In the Torah Section B – The Act of Marriage – Mohar and other Marriage-Monies   We now turn to look at not the state of marriage, but the act of effectuating marriage.  What act made an unmarried woman into an arusa, a betrothed woman?   …

Kiddushin: Ownership or Partnership? Part 1: Torah Laws

by Rabbi Dov Linzer
Posted on July 31, 2016

Our concept of marriage is one of a mutually entered partnership between husband and wife.  But is this the Torah’s and halakha’s understanding of the institution?  In this lecture, we will look at how the legal/halakhic institution of marriage is conceptualized in the Torah and how that has evolved through Rabbinic times until today.  …

Proposed Solutions to the Agunah Crisis

by Rabbi Dov Linzer
Posted on July 25, 2016

A. Forcing a Get due to Marital Incompatibility The Gemara says that a wife cannot be compelled to live with her husband if she cannot stand him. Rambam and Tosafot disagree as to what can be done in such a case (sources 1 and 2).…

What Endangers the World of Torah and The Rabbinate?

by Rabbi Nathaniel Helfgot
Posted on July 22, 2016

מה מסכן את עולם התורה ואת הרבנות? By Rav Yoel Bin Nun Rav Yoel Bin Nun is the former rosh yeshiva of Yeshivat Kibbutz Hadati and a founding faculty member of Michlelet Herzog of Yeshivat Har Etzion, and a faculty member at Yeshivat Har Etzion and other Torah institutions.…

Ani LiDodi, VDodi Li: Towards a More Balanced Wedding Ceremony

by Rabbi Dov Linzer
Posted on July 5, 2016

This article was originally published in the JOFA Journal 4:2 (Summer, 2003) From the chatan’s tisch, to the chatan’s giving of the ring, to the sheva berachot, men play a more prominent role in the traditional wedding ceremony than women. This can be troubling for couples who, while wishing to be respectful of tradition and community, are also looking for ways to have a ceremony that reflects their vision of marriage as an equal partnership.…

History of Past Sexual Abuse in Married Observant Women

by Dr. Michelle Friedman, MD
Posted on July 5, 2016

Most studies investigating religiosity and sexual abuse have examined whether religiosity ameliorates the negative consequences of sexual trauma (1–4), rather than whether religiosity affects the occurrence of sexual trauma. There are currently no statistics regarding the lifetime prevalence of sexual abuse within religious communities.…

Observant Married Jewish Women and Sexual Life: An Empirical Study

by Dr. Michelle Friedman, MD
Posted on July 5, 2016

Taharat haMishpahah, literally, “family purity,” refers to the series of Jewish laws and customs governing sexual behavior between husbands and wives. The laws of taharat haMishpahah need to be understood in the larger context of observant Jewish life, which seeks to elevate everyday behavior in light of a divine plan.…

Is the Ketuvah d’Oraitta or d’Rabanan?

by Rabbi Dov Linzer
Posted on February 19, 2010

There is a debate in the gemara (Ketuvot 10a) whether the ketuvah is mi’di’orraita, Biblical, or mi’di’rabanan, rabbinic. The position that ketuvah is Biblically-based is an individual one, that of Rabban Shimon ben Gamliel, and he even states this position somewhat tentatively – mikan samkhu li’ktuvat isha min haTorah, from here the Rabbis found support to the institution of the ketuvah from the Torah.…

Two Stages of Marriage

by Rabbi Dov Linzer
Posted on February 12, 2010

As is well known, there are two stages of marriage, kiddushin and nissuin. Kiddushin is referred to in the Torah as erusin, and nissuin is referred to as either kicha, taking (“Who is the man who has betrothed a woman and not taken her” – Deut 20:7) or beulat ba’al, a woman who has had sex with her husband (see Deut 22:22-23).…

Kiddushin as a Speech Act

by Rabbi Dov Linzer
Posted on January 29, 2010

The act of kiddushin, the giving of the ring, is accompanied by a verbal statement – harei at mekudeshet li bi’taba’at zo ki’dat Moshe vi’Yisrael, “behold you are betrothed to me with this ring, according to the laws of Moshe and Israel.”…

Kiddushin: Acquisition or Partnership?

by Rabbi Dov Linzer
Posted on January 22, 2010

When studying kiddushei kesef – kiddushin through the giving of an object of value – one must ask: is kiddushin is an actual kinyan, act of acquisition, or not? The two sides of this question can be seen in the development of the practice of giving a ring.…

Birkhat Eirusin: Birkhat Ha’Mitzvah or Birkhat Ha’Shevach?

by Rabbi Dov Linzer
Posted on January 15, 2010

Birkhat eirusin, the blessing made prior to the giving of the ring, is directly tied to how we define the religious significance of the institution of marriage. Regarding the brakha itself, the Talmud (Ketuvot 7b) records the text of the brakha and a debate as to whether we close it with a final brakha (which is our practice).…