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The Torah Learning Library of Yeshivat Chovevei Torah

Category: Gender, Marriage & Family

A Short History of Biblical Intermarriage: From Chamor to Ruth

by Rabbi Francis Nataf Posted on October 26, 2016

Woman of Folly, Woman of Valor: A Feminine Perspective on the Book of Proverbs

by Dr. Michelle Levine Posted on October 21, 2016

What Does It Take to Make a Match?

by Rabbi Haggai Resnikoff Posted on September 7, 2016

There is a need in our community for a review of the criteria we use in selecting mates (values and personal traits rather than aesthetic and material concerns). In addition there is a need to reemphasize that making the choice is not enough- there is tremendous work that still needs to go into a marriage and that very work is the source of the love between the partners.…

What Endangers the World of Torah and The Rabbinate?

by Rabbi Nathaniel Helfgot Posted on July 22, 2016

מה מסכן את עולם התורה ואת הרבנות? By Rav Yoel Bin Nun Rav Yoel Bin Nun is the former rosh yeshiva of Yeshivat Kibbutz Hadati and a founding faculty member of Michlelet Herzog of Yeshivat Har Etzion, and a faculty member at Yeshivat Har Etzion and other Torah institutions.…

Why Don’t the Girls Say No

by Michelle Friedman, MD Posted on July 5, 2016

Each time another sordid story of sexual molestation of children comes to light, an inevitable series of questions arise. “Why don’t the girls protest? Why didn’t they tell their parents, a teacher, a trusted friend? Why didn’t they say ‘no!’ to the abuser, and fight back?”… This article was originally published in the JOFA journal.…

Explaining the Laws of Family Purity

by Rabbi Avi Weiss Posted on May 25, 2016

Why is there a time of physical separation between husband and wife every month – a law found in this week’s Torah portion? (Leviticus 15) To be sure, a mandate ought be observed no matter – but is there a rationale?…

A Marriage of Equals?

by Rabbi Dov Linzer Posted on November 19, 2015

In the Torah story of Avraham’s servant and his interaction with Rivka, her brother, and her mother, we saw that society in Padan Aram had an unusual family structure. As a matrilineal society, households were comprised of the children of the same mother, and the head of the household was the mother’s oldest brother, perhaps at times working in conjunction with the matriarch.…

Was Rivka a (Gasp!) Feminist?

by Rabbi Dov Linzer Posted on November 4, 2015

When Avraham charges his servant to find a wife for Yitzchak, the servant asks a strange question: “Perhaps the woman will not desire to follow me to this land. Should I return your son to the land which you came from?” (Breishit, 24:5). …

Two Stages of Marriage

by Rabbi Dov Linzer Posted on February 12, 2010

As is well known, there are two stages of marriage, kiddushin and nissuin. Kiddushin is referred to in the Torah as erusin, and nissuin is referred to as either kicha, taking (“Who is the man who has betrothed a woman and not taken her” – Deut 20:7) or beulat ba’al, a woman who has had sex with her husband (see Deut 22:22-23).…

Kiddushin as a Speech Act

by Rabbi Dov Linzer Posted on January 29, 2010

The act of kiddushin, the giving of the ring, is accompanied by a verbal statement – harei at mekudeshet li bi’taba’at zo ki’dat Moshe vi’Yisrael, “behold you are betrothed to me with this ring, according to the laws of Moshe and Israel.” On the face of it, this expression would appear to be nothing more than an expression of intent, and not an actual constituent part of the act of kiddushin.…

Kiddushin: Acquisition or Partnership?

by Rabbi Dov Linzer Posted on January 22, 2010

When studying kiddushei kesef – kiddushin through the giving of an object of value – one must ask: is kiddushin is an actual kinyan, act of acquisition, or not? The two sides of this question can be seen in the development of the practice of giving a ring.…

Symmetry in Marital Sex

by Rabbi Dov Linzer Posted on December 11, 2009

The mitzvah of onah, the mitzvah of marital sex, raises the issue of the symmetry or asymmetry of the halakhically-defined sexual relationship. The Gemara discusses at length the husband’s obligation to have sex with his wife (at regular intervals or when she indicates that she is interested) based on the Biblical obligation of onah.…